As I reflect on my personality and the changes that I have progressed in life thus far. Many lessons due to stages, experiences, and learned behavior. All factors that have contributed to the maturity and wisdom I am thankful to have. It provided me a better understanding and how to be a better person, that’s someone else’s mother, daughter, sister, and a friend to many. I believe I have changed in many ways, but remained the same.
My spirit for one is the same. I am still just as warm, thoughtful, thinking constantly, and observant person. As I have become older, some of the introverted behavior has become more extroverted. My maturity level has grown with the positive and negative experiences I’ve had. I’ve found myself, in a lot of ways.
I’ve experienced heartbreak, loss, and pain like many others. I didn’t crumble. In fact, I learned how powerfully built I am. I’ve had to reach out, take a leap of faith ,and hope for the best in life. Adversity taught patience and to stay the course. Simply stated that if you’re doing active things, doing your best, and putting forth the effort. Things will work out.
There is a lot of debate in whether what is learned is the development of nature or nurture. The personality that you have evolved into adulthood. Which one of these was a significant contributor? It depends on for many people in regards to what had the major influential factor in my opinion. An ongoing debate for a while, and not a clear winner.
Nature and nurture play a significant role in human development. Nature, defined as the genetic makeup or genes that you inherit from both parents at the time of conception and carries throughout life. There are things that we genetically inherit. The concept of nature regards to the biological inherited tendencies and abilities that people have and may unfold later in their lives. The contrast of nurture, defined as the different physical and social, environmental factors that a person incurs from birth to death. Physical environments such as the womb developed in and social conditions like where you grew up, peer pressure and parental influences.
My belief is that my childhood social environments had a great impact on my development. I grew to be more knowledgeable and gathered common sense to certain situations. I saw hardship, hope, love, family, and friendships at its best of times and worse. Friends I made in these environments, we shared great moments for me to remember. It’s these social situations that light up in memory when triggered with the question, where did you grow up? Or how was your childhood? I also feel that nature has some value in my personality, tendencies, and abilities. I was born from two artistic parents in their respective ways. They enjoy and have the capacity to sing, and passed that on to us. My father is humorous, laid back, ambitious and artistic. I tend to be the same most of the time. On the contrast, when angered, I react in similar tendencies as my mother. I’ve acquired my ideals of cleaning and organization from her.
An anecdote is the retelling of an interesting story that contributes to the individual’s experience. Found by humans as compelling, but it has no relevance to scientists. In fact, they find them uncontrolled and unreliable. Not always typical experiences because cognitive and confirmation biases state that confirmatory anecdotes are likely remembered. The Misuse of anecdotal evidence is common in the informal fallacy or the person who complex that many have used to relate stories of hearsay such as, “I know someone who…”
All the world is a story… when we understand it that way, it can become a strategy and can help aid in how to travel in the world we live in today with its complexity. Humans are known for being social storytellers, as we learn by the experience of others. The most compelling are our own. Hardwired in, we often wholeheartedly believe that the experience was one that was directly toward us. Thus we are hard to convince otherwise. I feel this is why we as humans, when reliving the past, at times the stories are retold differently every single time. We become headstrong, emotionally invested, and it’s because these are our stories, we must be right about their accounts.
Biases tend to develop when recounting our past and sharing stories later with others. Such as, Confirmation (interpret, or recall information in a way that confirms one’s beliefs). Egocentric (remembering the past in a self-serving manner). Change (remembering the past performance as more difficult than it was); and Consistency (not correctly accounting for one’s past attitudes and behavior as mirroring present attitudes and behavior). I have been a guilty party to at least one. Personally, my bias can be relative to memories that I’d rather forget. Often, we don’t want to account for the part that we played into why the events unfolded how they did. That is a clear example of a confirmation bias. It’s the bias that relates more to the should have, could have, would have. A phenomenon that we sometimes emote or say when we later realize, if I only I had done that or wish I never did that. Psychologically through time, we tend to want to forget and don’t want to acknowledge we ever did.
Psychological factors of nature vs. nurture, anecdotes, and biases all have their impacts in our lifetime memory as we recollect past events. There are ways that we do this ourselves within our control. Sometimes, it’s not in our control. It’s how we remember the events or not remember them at all. The evolution of the human brain and memory are what scientist to this day still try to uncover the unanswered questions. Questions, that can help in medical advances, how to interpret mental illness, or disease. How we can live better among each other, and how we regard people, places, and things in our minds.