“Patience will achieve more than force.” Author – Edmund Burke
Did you comprehend the idea? That force will not provide the things that are worth waiting for, could lead to things before its time, and can distract from the evaluations necessary to do before action. That we gain clarity, grow, are wiser, and stand stronger, if we can understand patience. Forcing things to happen can feel false and unnatural. It may even boomerang on you. You can’t force someone to feel emotions toward you or force opportunities in a career. Time is required for things to develop. Let the results be true, earned, and strong enough to build on top of.
A proverbial phrase and inscribed in the Bible in the book of Galatians. I heard this phrase often coming up. As a kid, it immediately falls in one ear and out the other. A wise word upon deaf ears. That saying means nothing to you at that time. You want what you want and feel that everything is a need.
I was a stubborn kid like many of you. So, yep I didn’t get it then either. Didn’t appreciate it in adolescents, and heck it took time to recognize it in fullness in young adulthood. I still in those upper years wanted what I wanted and had to prioritize need over want. I became a mother, that’s when the tangible practice into understanding in it came to grasps.
It developed as I went through ups and downs. Really in the downs. Instances where I had to practice the patience in starting over, deal with divorce and co-parenting, finances and financial practices, climbing the ladder in the career position held, and patience as I develop my education/skills toward the career I strive to obtain.
No one ever said the trip would exclude experiences of pain, loss, worry, insecurity, non-confident moments, or blockage to where we may not see an end being near. However, it is that space that can empower the action to rise. Take the first step. Understanding that you may be starting from the bottom, may have gotten kicked back two spaces, but you can go up with patience.
I don’t tune it out, because I realize it. Anything worth having is worth waiting for. What will be for me will be, it’s all stacking up in the right way if in the journey, making decisions that help my goal, not hinder it.
Here’s another phrase often said instead, “Good things come to those who wait.” Yes, the trip will have its downs that will make us feel like we want to give up. We should quit while we’re ahead. DON’T QUIT! Those obstacles will make it truly a victory. You made it, safely. Despite what was coming at you that seemed like, it was the end all be all. You stayed and found a way to make it work. Landing that plane back onto level ground and continue to do whatever or go wherever the trip directed next.
There are moments where I even question why or how long do I have to wait it out? Taking steps and getting affairs in order to receive, when I get there. However, I want to find a partner in life, yet it hasn’t happened yet. Ready to be an entrepreneur but there’s still some things that need to be done before taking the launch step, or how about ready for home ownership.
TRUST ME… I get it. Honestly, I’m on my own trip and that’s my list of things, being patient enough to wait for, and I feel you, it sucks. You have the vision or you’re waiting for something so bad, it’s like it will never come. Then I come back to the understanding after having that rant for a minute or feeling like circumstances need force, that there is power in the wait. There is purpose to it. I want all those things on that list to be the best. We all deserve the best. In order to have it, the idea deserves the best efforts. The person should be the best for me and I for them. The house I want to live in and share with my family, the investment has to be sound financially.
I am here to reassure you that it will, the same way I reassure myself daily. The positive little things we do help the bigger picture. Don’t take them for granted. We still must use the trip to get ready. Not wait to get ready. If we wait, then we have to take that time later instead of just hoping on the next thing smoking toward the dream. I’m asking you to believe, there’s a method in this madness of being patient.